Episode 160 · 2022-11-12 · 34:32 · Original in Finnish
Trust | Martin-Mikael Lilius | Negotiator 160
Originally published as “Luottamus | Mikael Lilius | Neuvottelija 160”
Martin-Mikael Lilius has written a book about trust, knowledge and society, and shares a name with Fortum's former chief executive — a coincidence that has earned him both a good seat at a Draghi lecture and hate mail. The episode takes apart the three components of trust — ability, benevolence and integrity — and sets them against the trust-account idea from the host's own negotiation book. The discussion widens from childhood experience to the siloing of science, to polarisation in the United States, and to the genuinely awkward question of why China and Saudi Arabia outscore Finland in some trust surveys. It ends on banking as trust's limiting case, from Lehman Brothers to Basel and its unintended consequences.
Core theses
- Trust decomposes into ability, benevolence and integrity, and most breakdowns turn out to be a failure of one component being treated as a failure of all three.
- Trust survey rankings measure what respondents are willing to say, which is why authoritarian states can outscore Finland without anyone being wrong.
- Banking is the limiting case: a bank is solvent exactly as long as it is trusted, which makes the regulatory response to 2008 a response to a belief problem.
- The trust-account metaphor from negotiation and the three-component model describe the same thing at different resolutions.
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Summary
Martin-Mikael Lilius has written a book about trust, knowledge and society, and shares a name with Fortum’s former chief executive — a coincidence that has earned him both a good seat at a Draghi lecture and hate mail. The episode takes apart the three components of trust — ability, benevolence and integrity — and sets them against the trust-account idea from the host’s own negotiation book. The discussion widens from childhood experience to the siloing of science, to polarisation in the United States, and to the genuinely awkward question of why China and Saudi Arabia outscore Finland in some trust surveys. It ends on banking as trust’s limiting case, from Lehman Brothers to Basel and its unintended consequences.
Three components, not one feeling
Ability, benevolence and integrity are separable, and separating them is what makes the model usable. Someone who means well and cannot deliver has failed on one axis; someone competent who is not on your side has failed on another. Treating the result as a single verdict — trusted or not — throws away the information that tells you what to do next.
Why the survey rankings are strange
The observation that China and Saudi Arabia place above Finland in some trust measures is not a paradox once the question is read literally: a survey records what people are willing to state. The finding is about the instrument, and it is the most quotable moment in the episode.
Banking as the extreme case
A bank funded by deposits is solvent for as long as it is believed to be. That makes the post-2008 regulatory apparatus an attempt to legislate a belief, which is also why its unintended consequences were so hard to foresee.
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The recording lives on the Neuvottelija channel: Luottamus | Mikael Lilius | Neuvottelija 160. A Finnish edition of this episode is published at www.neuvottelija.fi.
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Guests: Martin-Mikael Lilius
Topics: Leadership & Governance Negotiation